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In this episode of The Turn On, Erica and Kenrya read from "Black Lesbians—We Are the Revolution!" and talk pegging, learning from our partners and if our ancestors watch us fuck.

Resources:

• Book, "Sinister Wisdom 107: Black Lesbians—We Are the Revolution!” Edited by JP Howard and Amber Atiya: Purchase here
• Book, "Anti-Racism: Powerful Voices, Inspiring Ideas" by Kenrya Rankin: Bookshop | Amazon
• Sinister Wisdom: Website | Twitter | Instagram | Facebook
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TRANSCRIPT
Kenrya: Come here. Get off.

Erica: Welcome to this week's episode of The Turn On. Today we will be reading a number of poems. I was about to say a number of poetries. A number of poetries from the anthology called “Black Lesbians—We Are the Revolution,” which was edited by JP Howard and Amber Atiya for Sinister Wisdom in winter of 2018. Sit back, relax. Get your wine, get your weed, get your whatever you need, and enjoy.

Kenrya: “Sinister Wisdom's Black Lesbians—We Are the Revolution.” Edited by JP Howard and Amber Atiya. “Questioning” by Vanesa Evers. I kissed her, not the other way around like my mother told me it would happen. She said the lesbian was aggressive, didn't care if you liked girls or not, they would attack you when you least expected it, but I kissed her and felt heaven inside. Should I tell my mother I am the aggressive lesbian she warned me about.

Kenrya: “Non/fiction” by Vanesa Evers. You ask me to kneel down between legs and suck what was never given to you but you don't want it really. Just want me spreading my tongue's liquid over the strapped firmness. I call you daddy, even though neither of us like ours, but daddy, you feel so good in my mouth. I stay down there until you release the back of my head, wanting me to believe something slid down my throat. It's okay though. I never liked it anyway.

Kenrya: “Black Moon” by Akinfe Fatou. I study the choreography of your heartbeat, your perfect saunter, what it means to be Black, to be lesbian and fearless. To be proud, daring to heal, save and love ourselves, to free our bodies in the face of patriarchy. In a society that sensationalizes violence against us. And seeks to marginalize, crucify, and shame us. Our existence is revolutionary. Our lovemaking is an act of resistance. We belong to ourselves and God.

Kenrya: “Untitled (Up In Harlem),” by Alena Singleton. I married u while making love to u, on a bare mattress, on a concrete floor, one sweaty night up in Harlem. I pledged my vows onto your thighs. The arch of your back quietly replied, “I do.”

Kenrya: “Hissing Fanon and Fuck You” by Arianne V. Benford. Fingertips raking trenches cross where my wings hide. Hissing Fanon and fuck you in the hollows of a spine curved as tempest. Tying your rings in my locks for safe keeping, because my skin weeps for you in eighty plus degrees. Now I know you know better. You know better than to call the fluttering in my thigh slight, the shiver and kick of drunken mule reckoning with hands of bridle and brass, that pulse circles and fireside two step. Conversation gurgling forth a brook from this throat ajar. Like thunder fracturing a 4:00 a.m. sky, there is nothing slight here. The way we bite and push, shove and suck, and stain the hardwood floor. Your hips above the face bowl bracing your left foot against the bathroom wall. The way our lips room temperature spread. Nothing slight when that stare carves up my ass for later, like enemies in honor, and honor in love, tangenting arguments in a succinct prayer, eyes open, eyes closed, claws out.

Kenrya: “Whole, and Nothing But” by Arisa White. My body feels true against your body. I swear, the truth. This sentence found an end. Start meets beginning—chest to chest, I swear. True as the dusk we love, my lifelines deep in the kink and kitchen of your hair. I got your cornrows, you got me by the breasts. Between our teeth, we need no standing translation.

Erica: Okay, y'all, so welcome back. Thank you, Kenrya, for your lovely rendition of the poetries. Did I say the-

Kenrya: The poetries.

Erica: The poems.

Kenrya: The poetries.

Erica: The poetries. Thank you so much. Okay, so we'll just jump right in to each one of them. Just a little bit about the anthology that we read. It's called Sinister Wisdom. They're a lesbian literary art journal. They release I want to say quarterly issues.

Kenrya: Yeah, I do believe so.

Erica: Because the one that we read from is Winter 2018, so they release quarterly issues of lesbian poetry.

Kenrya: Other things too. There's the Pat Parker collection that we read from last season was published by Sinister Wisdom too.

Erica: Yes, and also just in the journal, they also include stuff like photographs and art and that kind of thing. It's more than just poetry.

Kenrya: It's a pretty robust collection.

Erica: A robust collection. Good way to put it, Killa. The first poem that you read was “Questioning.” I think we've touched on this a little bit this season. They talk about how you ... Vanesa Evers wrote this article. Gosh, what's wrong with me? Vanesa Evers wrote this poem. To me the biggest thing that I took away from this is who are you in a relationship versus who people think you are. Like I said, we talked about this a little bit this season so far. One of the lines that stood out was how she ends it, "Should I tell my mother I'm the aggressive lesbian she warned me about?" It's interesting how you play, not that you play roles, but you have roles within your relationship that are intimate to the two of you and not necessarily what's projected on the outside or what people may think-

Kenrya: That's interesting.

Erica: ... or what people may know, because I think about just me as a person. I'm a very dominant force.

Kenrya: Yes, you are.

Erica: I'm a lot of person. I'm a dominant person. I find that I tend to take a more submissive backseat role in relationships, and I enjoy that. Where I fucked up is taking a submissive backseat role to motherfuckers that didn't deserve-

Kenrya: Don't know how to lead.

Erica: Yeah, exactly. Actually, I'm fine with that, I'm cool with it for the right person. Thank God for discernment now that I'm able to discern.

Kenrya: Praise.

Erica: I think people see me and see my dynamic and relationships and think, "Oh, this bitch is running all the shots," where really it's like, eh, I don't mind running shots, but I also would love to have a nigga be the one riding.

Kenrya: Be the shot caller.

Erica: Exactly. Exactly. You know what? As I said that, it makes me think, you know how you hear women say, shit, I said this, birds said, "I'm a strong woman. I need a strong man to control me." Slow down, buckaroo!

Kenrya: Yeah, I feel like I've definitely heard you say that before.

Erica: Huh?

Kenrya: I do believe I've heard you say that before, in your 20s.

Erica: Exactly. It's not even not necessarily that. It's not that, because you don't need ... I'm not like some fucking ape or donkey that needs to be controlled.

Kenrya: That's good.

Erica: We've said this before. I need to trust that you are going to lead us. I've found myself putting my trust in niggas that didn't quite need that, that didn't deserve that blind trust. Does that make sense?

Kenrya: It does make sense. I've been there.

Erica: You smell what I'm dropping?

Kenrya: I do. I really hate that analogy.

Erica: I know. It's grody.

Kenrya: I just see a horse pooping in the road.

Erica: Whatever, because I was just talking about a donkey.

Kenrya: Yes, that's what did it, the combination of the things.

Erica: The combination of the two. I definitely think about that, and then I think about relationships that I see and you're like, "Oh, he must be running the show," when maybe not. Maybe not quite.

Kenrya: It just really brings us back to this idea that we never really know what's going on in folks' relationships. We were just talking about this.

Erica: Just said that.

Kenrya: First of all, people put the version of their relationships in public that they want to, which is why anytime I see somebody say anything about goals about some shit they see on social media, I'll be like, "Oh baby, no."

Erica: I saw this meme on, it was somewhere, probably on my For You page or something, and it had a picture of Will and Jada, and they were cackling like, "Ha ha ha!" It was like, "Oh, and you all said we was goals." I'm like, "Exactly."

Kenrya: You never know how messy somebody's shit is on the inside.

Erica: I remember I had this person I worked with, and they were a fucking mess at work, just difficult. My other coworkers and I would sit around talking. We'd be like, "Oh, this nigga must not run shit at home, because he come here and is just a jerk, and there's no way in the world he do this shit at home and still with somebody." Years later he got divorced, and I talked to his partner. She was like, "Oh."

Kenrya: I know who you talking about.

Erica: "There's a reason that we got divorced." That shit was-

Kenrya: He tried that same shit at home.

Erica: Exactly. Exactly. It definitely makes me just ... This was an example of that. Then just the way that Vanessa talks about her mother explaining lesbians are aggressive, this is what lesbians do.

Kenrya: It brings us to those stereotypes, right?

Erica: Mm-hmm (affirmative). It reminds of, have I said this on the show, about how my granny was telling me, talking to me and my sister, and she said, "I know why them Black men like going with them white women." Me and my sister was like, "Why?" She said, "Because they let them, them white women's put they mouths on them Black men's penis. Ain't no self-respecting Black woman going to put her mouth on a man's penis."

Kenrya: Were you all already sucking dick at this point?

Erica: This was maybe five years ago, five to 10 years ago.

Kenrya: You'd sucked lots of dicks at that point.

Erica: Me and my sister looked at her and was like, "Oh my God, granny. Never. Thank goodness I'm with a Black man that don't believe in that kind of stuff. Pass me a water."

Kenrya: You nasty.

Erica: I know. It's another one of those situations, where you're like, "Aw. Poor thing." Now my granny's an ancestor, and she'd probably be like, "Oh, Jesus, the things that I missed."

Kenrya: The things that she sees, because I believe that our ancestors be hanging out, boy. They see more than we think they do.

Erica: Did we talk to our intuitive about that? I think I asked her or I saw her say somewhere, "Do they watch me when I'm rubbing one out?" She was like, "It's like they just close the door, like, 'Okay, we don't need to see that.'"

Kenrya: I remember once I was seeing our intuitive. This is right around when I was getting ready to ... I had already left my now ex-husband. She was communing with my grandmother. She was like, "Your grandmother funny as shit." I was like, "Yeah, she was." She was like, "She just said you about to have all kinds of nasty sex and she's so excited for you." I was like, "Thanks, grandma."

Erica: "Thanks, grandma."

Kenrya: She's very invested in the fact that I was going to have an amazing sex life, and I appreciate it.

Erica: I love that about our intuitive. One time she was like, "Do you see this card? It's a big eggplant, all this explosive stuff. He got a big dick and he's juicy." I was like, "Thank you. Thank you. That is very good to know." That's all I got for that one. You got anything to add about that one?

Kenrya: No. The lovely thing is that we're actually going to have Vanesa on the show next week, and so we get to dive even deeper into that poem with them, so it'll be great.

Erica: I know. That's why I'm trying not to do ...

Kenrya: Do too much there.

Erica: Say too much. On to another Vanesa poem, we read “Non/fiction.” This one's interesting, because she's using this poem to explore things that are roleplay, in a good way. I think we talked very early on in this show about roleplay and how I don't do costumes. "I'm a robot dinosaur." In this one she says, "I'll call you Daddy, even though neither of us liked ours, but you feel so good in my mouth." It's interesting how we use roleplay to explore some-

Kenrya: Work through our-

Erica: What'd you say?

Kenrya: I was going to say explore, but also to work through our shit.

Erica: Maybe we'll dig a little deeper into that, because I have been reading articles about how people use BDSM to work through trauma. I find that very interesting that they use some of the same things that were used against them to strengthen them.

Kenrya: Wow.

Erica: Put a pin in that. We'll come back to that, because I don't necessarily feel like I am the one qualified to lead that discussion, but I think it's a good discussion worth having.

Kenrya: I love that.

Erica: Also, what I like about the end of this poem is how when you're using a strap, you get into it, and so they're like, "Look, stay down there until you cum," like you're using the strap to cum. It's like, "Wanting me to believe something slid down my throat, but that's okay, because I never liked that part anyway."

Kenrya: It's a very honest poem.

Erica: It's very honest, but it's also just really cool how they are aware that they're role-playing but feel so into it. I was dating this would guy, and he would let me peg him occasionally.

Kenrya: Wow.

Erica: Damn. You was like, "Hm. Yeah."

Kenrya: I was just thinking I hadn't heard about this, and this is exciting. It feels like some kind of a fucking unicorn. I'm assuming this was a Black man that would actually let you-

Erica: It's a Black man. I'll tell you who it is when we get off of this because-

Kenrya: That's fucking dope.

Erica: Your mind will be blown at exactly who it is.

Kenrya: Oh, because I got an idea who I think it is.

Erica: Your mind will be blown.

Kenrya: I love it.

Erica: I loved it because I did it, but he would always be like, "Oh, I'm only letting you do this because you like to, you like this power." I'm like-

Kenrya: "Okay, nigga."

Erica: ... "Nigga, don't nobody just spread they booty cheeks because somebody else like it. You got to-"

Kenrya: To be clear, it feels good.

Erica: It does!

Kenrya: Stop acting like this shit don't feel good, like you don't got a whole organ that's right there that really, really loves this feeling.

Erica: That was my thing. I was cool with it. I was cool with it and I did it, because it was like, "Okay. All right. Let me do it. Wink. I like to do it," but it was just like, "Bruh, be real with yourself, because once you're real with yourself about that, then ... " Because we'd be doing it and he'd be like, "Don't you want to strap me?" I'd be like-

Kenrya: "Yeah, nigga."

Erica: ... "Yeah, okay." Yes, I did, but it was just like-

Kenrya: Yeah, he wanted it to be like it was your idea, not his all the time.

Erica: The thing is-

Kenrya: Just say what you want, bruh.

Erica: Niggas so dumb that they even ... He swore, he put it in my head, and it's like, "No, nigga. I like it, but you ain't ... " Anyway. The particular person that it was, they just made it seem like, "Oh, I care about you so much, I'm going to let you do it."

Kenrya: Did that take any of the shine off of it? Did it make it less fun because they weren't really standing grounded in the fact that this brought them pleasure?

Erica: Yes. Thinking about it now, yes, definitely, because for me I find that sex is fun when we're all in, when we just-

Kenrya: Everybody's enthusiastic.

Erica: Exactly. He was enthusiastic. He was trying to be like, "Aw. No, no! Okay, here."

Kenrya: He was being demure. Demure, but also it feels like, I don't know, I'm searching for a word. It feels to me, and tell me if this is what it felt like to you, almost on a continuum of a pity fuck, like, "Sure, if this is what you want, I'll do this." I want you to be ecstatic about what the fuck we're about to do. I don't want you to do it or make it seem like you're doing it just because it's something that I want you to do. I want you to do it because you're in and this is what you want to do at every step of the way.

Erica: Yes and no. Yes, I feel you on that, but it was clear to me once I got back there that he was-

Kenrya: You ain't stupid.

Erica: I think had I allowed the relationship to go further, I feel like I could've gotten that out of him. I ain't nobody's fucking counselor or therapist. I will be for the right person. I'm willing to explore those things with the right person.

Kenrya: He wasn't worth the investment.

Erica: It wasn't worth the investment, like, "All right. Now I'm going to open you up a little bit. Maybe the right person you'll find and you all can do this for real for real." It was definitely an interesting situation. I actually enjoyed it and loved the power and the roleplay that came from it, because even though I wasn't cumming from a dick, a plasdick, I still came from a plasdick. That was a good one.

Kenrya: Did it teach you anything about yourself and what you like?

Erica: I think it taught me that I like a nigga that's going to be honest about what he wants, because again, I don't want to feel like I'm having to ... You know how some niggas be like, "I don't want it if it's that easy," like the good reverend Tupac?

Kenrya: Uh-huh (affirmative).

Erica: I do want it if it's easy. That's my shit. Kenrya just did a body roll. The thing is, I do want it if it's that easy. I want us to all be clear about what the fuck we want and do it. I want us to be like, "Do you want to do it? Fuck yeah! Let's. Come on. I got the lube," pull out my favorite one, that kind of thing. I think that's what it taught me. I've always believed not to judge a book by its cover, but again, some niggas surprise you.

Kenrya: That they do.

Erica: That they do. On to the next. (singing) We read “Black Moon.” I loved this one. I love this one because it's a manifesto. I love the fact that they say, "Our existence is revolutionary. Our lovemaking is an act of resistance." I want to talk about this, but I don't really understand the situation enough. If I fuck this up, my bad. There's this rapper Tobin something. I feel horrible, because I actually really like him. It's the guy that did Arrest the Cops That Killed Breonna Taylor or the, you're not on the internet enough, “Try Jesus not me, Because I got these hands."

Kenrya: I watched that video.

Erica: That guy. It's him, I think it's his wife, and they got a kid, and the kid just be in the background like, "Wah!" Then they have a producer. I don't want to talk about it, because somebody's listening like, "No!" because I only catch them in passing on Instagram. I actually committed to following them today. I know we just talked about how you can't judge a book by its cover, you don't really know all of everything in a relationship, but that's what they feel like to me. They feel like this poem, where they just Black as fuck, they be in their Easter colors in a monochrome room. Is it monochrome?

Kenrya: Mm-hmm (affirmative), all one color.

Erica: In a monochrome room just talking about being Black and loving each other and kissing on fat babies. It is just the best thing on earth. I think he's a gospel artist or a gospel rapper. Maybe not a gospel rapper, but he ain't one of them, "Fuck a bitch in the pussy until she cum 10 times," kind of gal, so I feel bad saying this, but I'd love to see a sex tape, a consensual sex tape, because he's just big and Black and got gold teeth and it's just sexy. Am I being problematic?

Kenrya: No.

Erica: You're looking at me. Kenrya's giving me this look.

Kenrya: I'm just listening! I'm just listening.

Erica: She has this look that she gives me when I'm being problematic, and I wasn't sure if that was the look that you were giving me.

Kenrya: No, I'm literally just ...

Erica: I would love to see them making love together, because in my mind, granted “Black Moon” is about to be lesbian and fearless, but nonetheless, I still feel like to be Black and fearless. It's just the fact that we choose to love each other openly, out loud, and proudly, is a really big fucking deal, especially in a time where niggas trying to kill us.

Kenrya: All the time.

Erica: Also, not to take away from the actual poem, which is about lesbians loving each other out loud, again, in this time where queer people are just getting fucking dogged, not only by-

Kenrya: Especially Black queer people.

Erica: I was about to say Black queer people are not only getting dogged by straights, but by the same motherfuckers that they are help advancing the fight for. Why I want to call it a article? This poem really, really, I fucking loved it. I loved it, loved it, loved it.

Kenrya: By the time I got to, "We belong to ourselves and God," I was just fully taken.

Erica: Yes. It just feels good. It feels-

Kenrya: It's like the poetic equivalent of “Fuck Them Other Niggas.”

Erica: Yes! Which I listened to this morning.

Kenrya: We were dancing to it this weekend.

Erica: We were?

Kenrya: You were drunk.

Erica: We all were.

Kenrya: You were playing the music, bitch.

Erica: I was?

Kenrya: I was the only sober person.

Erica: Yes, you were playing the music. I'll have to go back and look at pictures.

Kenrya: Oh my God.

Erica: It was definitely a wild one. I will say that.

Kenrya: We had a fun day. A fun, safe day in the midst of all of this.

Erica: In the midst of all of this.

Kenrya: COVID shit.

Erica: Which again, we're in a place right now, I feel like we need “Black Moon” cast projected on the side of a building or something right now, because this is a poetic “Fuck Them Other Niggas.” It's beautiful. It's strong. This is who I am. This is what the fuck we're doing. I can't get enough of it. I'm about to fuck up this woman's name. Akinfe Fatou.

Kenrya: Fatou.

Erica: I know I can say Fatou. I can't say the first, Akinfe. I'm so sorry, hon. Good Midwestern tongue. Mark that on your bingo cards.

Kenrya: We need to really make bingo cards.

Erica: We are going to. Watch out for that in Season Four.

Kenrya: The only other thing I really want to say about “Black Moon” that I love is it starts and she says she's studying her partner and that her partner is showing her and embodying what it means to be Black, what it means to be lesbian, what it means to be proud, what it means to be free. I love the idea of being partnered with someone who helps you to be more of yourself and that helps to bring you to that place. That's why I love, by the time that she says, it goes from her studying her partner to her saying that our lovemaking is an act of resistance, so now you're not two separate entities, it's about what you do together. It's about the fact that you belong to yourselves and to God, that you have now come together. She's shown you what this means. She's modeled this for you, and now you're there in that same space together. I love that.

Erica: I believe that each relationship, good or bad, teaches you something. Do you believe that?

Kenrya: I do believe that. I'm thinking about my shittiest relationships and the fact that I learned something. Don't mean I want to do it again, but I did learn something.

Erica: Now that I am better at picking partners and relationships, I think I look forward to learning more about, okay, so I think I know everything there is to know about me, but what is there new to learn? What will this uncover, in a good healthy way, as opposed to, I don't want to have to hit rock bottom to learn X, Y and Z anymore. Just let me learn it from a game-

Kenrya: I told you.

Erica: ... or we-

Kenrya: An honest conversation.

Erica: Exactly. Some good questions. “Untitled (Up In Harlem).” Reading it reminded me of this relationship I had in college, only because it says, "I married you while making love to you on a bare mattress on a concrete floor."

Kenrya: Bitch, I almost spit out my tea.

Erica: I didn't marry a nigga, but I definitely had a relationship in college where we slept on an air mattress. I would leave a real dorm room to go sleep on a fucking air mattress.

Kenrya: Bitch, you was wiling.

Erica: I was in college and in love and I had a good back. Now I'd be like, "Mm-mm (negative)." I remember the night my ex-husband and I bought our house, and I was just so hype to ... I was like, "We bought this house. We're going to spend the night in it." I brought the air mattress that we had, and we slept in this empty ass house on an air mattress. I remember I woke up at 2:00 in the morning and this nigga was gone. I said, "Where the fuck is he?" I look outside and this nigga is in the car, with the AC on, knocked out. He was like, "I tried waking you up. I knew you'd come out here soon."

Kenrya: Fuck.

Erica: That shit don't work when you hit a certain age. At the time it was sexy. Not sexy, but it was just like, "Aw, humble beginnings."

Kenrya: "We're together."

Erica: "We'll write these stories later in life when we're married and kids about how we used to, 'Oh, I used to go to your daddy house and sleep on the air mattress on the floor.'" Nigga, no. Not at all. I will tell all my babies, "You deserve so much more."

Kenrya: You do.

Erica: You deserve so much more.

Kenrya: However, in this poem, the feeling that I got from it was like, yeah, it was probably not the ideal situation, but I was so into you and so wanting you in that moment, that even on a fucking concrete floor-

Erica: Sweaty night.

Kenrya: ... I still found my way to you.

Erica: Yes. It's beautiful. It's beautiful. It's sexy. I could feel this poem. Again, this poem, I'm holding it up, this poem is a romanticized version of what I thought the struggle was in college.

Kenrya: Absolutely.

Erica: Not to look badly on this poem. I don't want to make it seem like-

Kenrya: It's a beautiful poem.

Erica: It's a beautiful poem. I just think that young girls, not all girls, but some girls get caught up in, "The struggle is going to bond us together and this is going to be beautiful, and we'll look back on it." No, honey. Even that particular guy was a sweetheart, and it was just circumstances, whatever, but no, honey.

Kenrya: Have you ever made any proclamations while having sex, said things for the first time?

Erica: Bitch! I can't find it. I have a text message. This dude that I used to fuck, I think I showed it to you, that was like, "You told me you loved me." I was like, "Oh, I was dick drunk. My bad." Don't trust me. If I was a nigga, I'd probably done bought a million bitches cars, because, "Can I have a car?" "Yep, whatever you want."

Kenrya: "Just keep sucking that dick."

Erica: "I said that? My bad." I try not to get too crazy, but I definitely get dick drunk, pussy drunk, gooch drunk. I learned about gooch and now I keep talking about it. I don't even play with the gooch too often. I have. What about you? You seem like you're just too levelheaded to do that.

Kenrya: Yeah, I've never said anything in the heat of the moment that I couldn't take back.

Erica: I'm trash. Also I'm a gemini, so I might've actually truly, truly felt it right then.

Kenrya: In that moment.

Erica: It's just ...

Kenrya: I'm always thinking about the consequences and the fallout of shit, so nah, son, I ain't never.

Erica: See, that's the thing. When I'm in it and it's good, I'm in it. "Erica, what's your name?" "I don't know!"

Kenrya: I've had people say things to me in the middle that they probably did not mean to say, but nah, because I try not to take those things too seriously.

Erica: I probably need to have a disclaimer written on my back, like, "If you are here, anything that's said at this point, just ignore it." I get dick drunk, and it is over for me.

Kenrya: The next poem, which I think is pronounced “Hissing Fanon and Fuck You,” but you just told me I was probably wrong.

Erica: You all know I can't fucking pronounce shit. I don't know why she thinks that. Anyway, continue.

Kenrya: This poem was interesting to me, because what I got from it is that it is these two people who are lovers, but also they hate each other's fucking guts.

Erica: (singing)

Kenrya: When they come together, it's like an explosion. It's like thunder, it says. There's a conversion that's happening. Shit, "Shove and suck, and stain the hardwood floor." So much of this felt violent in some ways. That's not a bad thing if that's what you like. I speak from experience. It was this idea that as much as they hate each other is the same amount that they can't keep their hands off of each other, and the fact that when they do come together, it is an explosion and they just can't help themselves. Have you ever found yourself fucking somebody who outside of fucking you really can't stand?

Erica: I think we talked about that. I don't think so. Maybe. What'd I say? Go back. Run that tape back. I can't remember if I did or not. Shit, that was last episode.

Kenrya: Was it?

Erica: No.

Kenrya: I don't think so.

Erica: Shit. Anyway.

Kenrya: Also, a bitch is old and we recorded this a while ago.

Erica: I don't think so, only because I want to feel like you really like me. I don't like that, "He's mean to me so he likes me," shit.

Kenrya: Yes, that's what we're talking about, teaching our kids that a nigga shouldn't be mean to you if he likes you.

Erica: I don't think I do that, but maybe-

Kenrya: Have you ever found yourself going back to have sex with someone who you broke up with who you don't like? I hear that a lot, where people break up but they're still having sex, and I've never actually done that before. That feels along the same lines, I guess, depending on how you all broke up.

Erica: No. Did I? I don't think so. You know these pussy miles more than me, so maybe.

Kenrya: No one that's coming to mind.

Erica: I definitely remember breaking up with someone and then getting drunk and calling them and then we got back together and was doing it, but none of the, because I don't need that toxic shit. If we broke up, we broke up for a reason. That was the only time I doubled back to somebody. I do have people that I've had very intense sex with, so it was never sweet fucking, it was never slow stroking. It was put the nigga in a headlock and riding him until he turn blue in the fact, that kind of shit.

Kenrya: Was that emblematic of the rest of you all's relationship or was it only like that when you were having sex?

Erica: Actually, it was very much the opposite. It was very sweet and kind and doting and all of that, but then once we got to doing the do, it was just some like, "Is that a bruise?" type shit, which to me was a turn on, because it was like, "You were so ... " It was a turn on, because-

Kenrya: It's like in the movie when they say the name of the movie in the dialog.

Erica: It was a turn on, because it was so opposite of who he was as a person and as a lover.

Kenrya: It was unexpected.

Erica: Yeah. The first time it happened, I was like, "Oh, shit." It was very different. I think that's what made it even that much hotter, because he was one of them niggas that would have taken off his jacket and put it over a puddle if I needed him to, that kind of shit.

Kenrya: I never understood that. I'm like, "Don't it just all get wet?"

Erica: Don't you just step in it? Yeah.

Kenrya: Yeah, but anyway.

Erica: It makes sense in cartoons. “Whole and Nothing But.” I think that this one, one of the biggest things that I got from this, and you brought this up, is that intimacy brings the truth between two people. I say this all the time. Once you done had your face in somebody's booty, certain walls are broken down. That's not always the case, which I find a bit problematic anyway, because it's like, "We doing something this close."

Kenrya: I think there's a lot of situations in which you can do something that close and then walk away.

Erica: You know what? I totally agree. I am one that always says, "Hey, sex and intimacy are two different things." In sex, it feels like their lovemaking, their sex is just so icky and sticky and raw and passionate that anything that could be between them is now, those walls have come down and they are now just ... Two becomes one.

Kenrya: In an extra Black way.

Erica: Huh?

Kenrya: In a really extra Black way.

Erica: I was just about to say, "I got your cornrows. You got me by the breast."

Kenrya: Yeah, and, "My lifelines deep in the kink and kitchen of your hair." That ain't nothing but two Black women.

Erica: Two niggas, loving on one another and sexing on one another. It also feels like you don't know what ... Who sings that song, and it's like, "I don't know where the ending begins." India.Arie.

Kenrya: Brown Skin. That's one of my favorite lines in that song, "I can't tell where yours ends and I begin." Oof. Yes.

Erica: You all got me ready to go.

Kenrya: I feel that way often, because my partner and I are about the same color. I be like, "Yeah, that's true, I can't tell."

Erica: You all got me ready to go pat this puss. This was just Black as fuck and beautiful and we're just two just folks all stuck in with one another and in love. I loved it.

Kenrya: I love this repeating refrain of the, "I swear." It feels like such a ... First of all, when we were a kid, we weren't really allowed to say, "I swear," but if you said it, you meant that shit, like, "I swear!"

Erica: My father died when I was younger, when I was 10, so like, "Put that on daddy grave." You put that on daddy grave, then-

Kenrya: You meant that shit.

Erica: We mean business. "You put it on your granny!" That kind of shit.

Kenrya: Yes. That popping up that, "I swear, the truth, chest to chest, I swear," it just felt so uniquely us.

Erica: I think that's so true with this entire, all the poems, all the poetries that we read in today's episode. It's all so beautiful and so Black. The words, the fabric of it just feels ... I'm rubbing my fingers like I'm rubbing a slick do-rag.

Kenrya: The silkiest of the silks.

Erica: The silkiest of the silks. This just feels good and Black in the sense of everything. There are a million little bits that just wouldn't nobody else understand, but you understand it and feel it and it just feels Black. These have been amazing poems. We had a lot more that we liked, but we had to settle on only a few.

Kenrya: We had to pick a few. Thank you to all of the poets that we featured, because they all gave us permission and said, "Hey, yeah."

Erica: Thank you to our good homies at Sinister Wisdom, who I think this is the second time we've worked with them.

Kenrya: Always a pleasure.

Erica: Always a pleasure, always hooking us up with dope ass works. You all are the best. That wraps up this part of the episode. We will go on to, (singing), What's Turning Us On. What's turning me on this week is Sliquid. It is a type of lube. It comes in a bunch of different, I don't want to say flavors, because they don't taste, but-

Kenrya: Varieties.

Erica: Varieties. They come in a bunch-

Kenrya: Variations.

Erica: A bunch of different blends. Sliquid is this really cool lube. It's a silicone-based lube, which means your body doesn't absorb it, which means a little bit goes a long way, and it stays. Only thing that I would not do is use that shit with your silicone toys, because it'll break it down.

Kenrya: It can make it sticky.

Erica: I love this fucking lube.

Kenrya: You put me on to this one.

Erica: Hm?

Kenrya: You put me on to that one too.

Erica: Two things. One, they also sell them in little bitty packets, which are great for your hoe bag, so you don't have to tote a whole bag, a whole jar of lube, a whole bottle of lube with you. You can just dink dink dink dink dink. Second, a sex educator put me on to this. I think I might've mentioned it. Buy those little pumps, those little screw pumps, and put them in the top of your lube, so you don't have to-

Kenrya: That's way easier.

Erica: You literally just, and go at it.

Kenrya: I'm so sad that you all don't get to see all the hand movements.

Erica: Next season. Next season.

Kenrya: So many hand movements.

Erica: I love it. I think it's the best. We're going to include a link to it in the show notes.

Kenrya: In the What's Turning Us On page on our website.

Erica: If you're looking for just a good lube for everyday types of stuff, use this, or you could use it with your silicone toys, just got to put a condom over it. Use it. It's great. I love it. It's turning me on.

Kenrya: Love that.

Erica: That's all I got.

Kenrya: That's what up.

Erica: That was an easy one. This was an easy one.

Kenrya: Lube sells itself.

Erica: With that said, this was a great episode. You got anything else for us, any announcements?

Kenrya: No.

Erica: Buy Kenrya's book.

Kenrya: Yep. I got another book out. Thanks, boo. It's called “Anti-Racism: Powerful Voices Inspiring Ideas.” It's available everywhere, but I always recommend that you buy it at a Black bookseller. Let's keep our money circulating our community.

Erica: We will include links in the show notes.

Kenrya: It's on our Bookshop page as well.

Erica: I'm sorry, that's what I meant. We'll include it on our Bookshop page. With that, this is Erica. Two hoes, making it clap. I can't do this on my own.

Kenrya: This is Kenrya, two hoes.

Erica: Wait.

Kenrya: You said, "This is Erica."

Erica: No, I said, "This is Erica and Kenrya."

Kenrya: Mm-mm (negative).

Erica: My bad.

Kenrya: Making it clap!

Erica: With that said, this is Erica and Kenrya.

Kenrya: Two hoes.

Erica: Making it clap.

Kenrya: Making it clap. Whatever. One day. Maybe.

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In this episode of The Turn On, Erica and Kenrya reminisce about homecoming.

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TRANSCRIPT
Kenrya: Come here. Get off.

Erica: Welcome to this week's episode of The Turn On. And I got to tell y'all something. I am not okay, I am not okay. You want to know why? Because right now, I should be on somebody's yard, in a sweat shirt and some jeans, drunk out of my mind, shaking my ass on somebody that I failed to run up on in college.

Kenrya: Or [repeating 00:00:00:45].

Erica: I am not okay. This is what? Homecoming season and I can't go home. So today, we're going to do quick dispatches from the field, about fond homecoming memories. We thought since we can't really do homecoming and we might as well reminisce on what happened in the past and plot on what will happen in the future.

Kenrya: Yes, I like it.

Erica: So, our first dispatch comes from someone who wanted to remain nameless and she wrote-

Kenrya: Faithful listener.

Erica: Yes. A Faithful listener. So she wrote in. So, Killa.

Kenrya: Let's get it. All right. "Homecoming always provides a sexual freedom of sorts. It's a gathering of which allows anything from a flirtatious walk by of a former wishful flame to a morning after that I did or did it again. Often blamed on the mixture of college besties and alcohol, you mentally allow yourself freedoms that you might not on a regular outing. While this year is different, and there is no homecoming in the true sense of the word. Perhaps it is important to, if not more so important this time, allow yourself a random freedom, just to be in and go with the moment. Even when 2020 has taken the ultimate jump-off rally and excuse away, it's taught us to grab the moment whenever we're able by the balls, both literally and figuratively." Yes, friend.

Erica: Homecoming always taught me, YOLO. There is this meme going around right now, on Instagram and it's like a red cup and it's like, "What's in this cup?" "Just drink it." "Okay." It was like, "A homecoming memoir."

Kenrya: Oh no. That's awful.

Erica: I was laying in bed this morning, scrolling through pictures about where I should be right now. I should be at work, bullshitting, trying to act like I'm getting work done so I can get out this bitch early. So I can go to somebody's random happy hour.

Kenrya: Mm-hmm (affirmative). It is that time.

Erica: Homecoming.

Kenrya: But it is not.

Erica: YOLO, motherfuckers. YOLO. Do you have a homecoming tale you want to share?

Kenrya: I only have one. And I think I shared it on the show already.

Erica: That was a wild night. Because it was one of those situations where we was... Usually when we're out, I keep an eye on Killa. Killa keeps an eye on me. But this year, we both was on one.

Kenrya: We were. Why not? We were single.

Erica: Why not? Right? And my big brother was in town, so he was able to keep an eye on everybody. [crosstalk 00:03:52] So, I was like, "I ain't got to be responsible. Fuck yeah!" So I wouldn't keep an eye on Killa. Killa was in her own world. And I didn't even know that a whole world had been built until she pulls me-

Kenrya: Is this when we're sitting at dinner?

Erica: No. Not even at dinner. I'm drunk in the bathroom. She's like, "Girl, I'm about to leave, go hook up with so and so." I was like, "Wait, what?" So yeah.

Kenrya: At least we follow protocol, drunk and all.

Erica: Yes, we do. And I appreciate that, because we do have friends that will dip off, drunk as shit.

Kenrya: And we'd be looking for their asses in the club all night.

Erica: I definitely have been drunk, cussing a friend out like, "You can't leave without telling me!" So, yeah.

Kenrya: Just very briefly. I spent the day with some folks who were in from out of town, all day long. You know what? I think back though. So, the day before we had spent time with this person, I had my head wrap on, you know what I mean? He weren't even checking for me. And the next day I came out with my hair fluffed out. I had my abs popping.

Erica: Booty juicy.

Kenrya: And he was like... Yeah, exactly. I was like, "Oh, you weren't checking for me yesterday, but now you see all this ass and you interested. That is interesting. But I ain't care because that's all I wanted, so." No, it definitely was like, "How'd this happen?" For everybody. I remember, because we were sitting at dinner and I don't even think you saw all of the-

Erica: Yeah, I didn't. I didn't.

Kenrya: The touching and whispering and whatever that was happening, until I pulled you to the side.

Erica: I didn't. Yeah, I didn't, because I think I was slip in [some nachos 00:05:27], shout out to our homecoming spot. So there's this one spot in DC that we always go to. The food is good. It's not the most amazing Mexican food, but it just-

Kenrya: It's not Mexican.

Erica: It's not, it's Cuban.

Kenrya: No, I think South American. [crosstalk 00:05:47] That was good.

Erica: Anyway. So, it's good food, and the drinks are great. It's just the whole experience about it.

Kenrya: We've been going for like 20 years.

Erica: Easily, 20 years. More than 20 years. So yeah. It is our spot and it's not a homecoming if we don't go there. Either you do it before you get to the yard, after the yard. But that was also the year that our girl did that fancy brunch, that political brunch.

Kenrya: Was it? Oh, I missed it, because I was out with somebody.

Erica: No, you came late.

Kenrya: Oh, okay. I did. I'm thinking about the year before that I was-

Erica: But, yes.

Kenrya: No. That was the Friday before she had... There was something else and I missed it because I was on a date.

Erica: It was dope. Because we got drunk.

Kenrya: We got drunk, we ate good, good for free. Except for a donation, obviously.

Erica: It was good.

Kenrya: That was a good time. But all of that said, I ended up not even having sex because I realized he was too twisted to finish and I believe in consent. So we did a whole bunch of other stuff. And then it was time to do the doing, and he was green and swirling around, I was like, "Oh you can't do this."

Erica: "I'm not trying to catch a case."

Kenrya: Yeah. I was like, "Let me get you some water." Lay you on down. And that was that.

Erica: Yeah. So also, as a mom, I always try to line up my custody weekends with homecoming. Which is kind of fucked up, because although my ex didn't go to Howard, he is very Howard associated.

Kenrya: In the fucking mix.

Erica: Yeah. He always in the mix.

Kenrya: We always see him every year, or every other.

Erica: Every year, we see him. Even when we're divorced.

Kenrya: I feel like the year that we talking about, he handed me a bunch of money for you. And I put it in my fanny pack.

Erica: Yes. He did. I was like, "Okay, thanks." And then he text me. He was like, "Your family in town and you ain't say shit to me." I'm like, "We're not together."

Kenrya: Relax.

Erica: That's the weird relationship we had. But anyway, yes. So, I take precedence because I went to Howard. So, I'm like, "You are a hanger-on, you will have our child and figure out what the fuck happens." So, yeah.

Kenrya: "No problem."

Erica: Because also, I enjoy my home being the spot-

Kenrya: Where people can come hang out after and before [crosstalk 00:08:24].

Erica: ... where we can all congregate, that kind of thing. Or people stay in. I live a lot closer to DC now, but people come and stay and that kind of thing. So, yeah.

Kenrya: Yeah. Fun times.

Erica: Okay. All right. Well, next story is about a good friend.

Kenrya: Yeah. What a wild night.

Erica: Yes.

Dispatch #2: Okay. So, homecoming stories, 2020. When I think back when this particular night, it was so wild. And I just think is something that my friends will never let me live down because not only was there lots of sex, with lots of different people. That sounded really bad. But at least two that night. I also really embarrassed myself on my best friend's elevator in her apartment. So, one of my hoes was in town from New York, and he came to homecoming every year. And he was very good friends with one of my other girlfriend's old dude that she used to do it. So we would all hang out, we'd go party in the club and all that good stuff. We had the best time. So, it was one particular homecoming. He was in town, but I was also dating somebody in DC that I was sleeping with regularly, and we were having all these crazy sexcapades and all that good stuff. Long story short, I slept with both of them that night. I literally went from one to two the next day.

Dispatch #2: And in between all of that, I was drunk as hell. It'd probably was one of the drunkest nights of my life that I can recall. While I'm waiting at my best friend's house to go on the elevator, I'm like, "I got to pee. I got to pee. I got to pee." So, anyone who knows me, I really can't to hold my bladder like that. So, I ended up peeing on my best friend's elevator, in her whole apartment complex. Fast forward, two or three years later, she would always remind me of that night because her dog would get in the elevator, he would sniff in the same spot where I peed. She wouldn't let me live it down. So, homecoming that year was lit. Her elevator was lit, and all is well.

Erica: Yeah. Once you're a woman of a certain age, moral of the story is your bladder ain't shit. Especially when you're drunk.

Kenrya: Hers has gotten worse over the years.

Erica: But here's the thing, your friends will have you in some bullshit, in some-

Kenrya: Hyping your ass up.

Erica: You'll be like, "How the fuck is this?" But you can't be but so mad because you're like, "You know what, at some point you're going to be taking care of me." So, all you can do is just help your homegirl, hold on to a little bit of dignity as Jesus walk her out of the club. I call it Jesus walk, because you got one hand around each person, and you're getting dragged, like you are a crucifix. So blasphemous.

Erica: But yeah. My girls definitely had me in some bullshit for homecoming. You know what, sometimes it'd be some good shit like, "Oh my God, what the fuck happened?" Let me tell you my homecoming story. So, I had a girlfriend and, again, it's one of those things. My girlfriend had a guy that she was dealing with. He have his homeboys come down from New York. I think they was from New York, or I don't fucking know. His homeboys came from out of town. They come from homecoming each year. They always come in town. So, it was like, year after year I was running into the same dude. Sometimes we fool around. We might kiss, or make out, dry hump, eat my pussy.

Kenrya: Wait, who is this? Wait.

Erica: Let me finish the story, and then I'll tell you names.

Kenrya: All right.

Erica: So, homecoming come around and this was when Beyoncé just dropped... Which album had “Freakum Dress” on it?

Kenrya: “4”?

Erica: No, it wasn't “4.” It was “B'Day.”

Kenrya: Yes.

Erica: She had just dropped “B'Day” and we was getting ready to go to Dream, bitch. And this was when I was living right on the strip. So everybody came to my house. It was hype (singing). We was litty like a mother fucking titty.

Kenrya: Yeah, I remember this.

Erica: So, we get to the club, we just kicking it, kicking it, kicking it, running to dude and his crew, and we kicking it. You always got to go to eat. So we went to eat after that. After we went to eat, you remember that scene in an [Insecure 00:13:22] where the girl was getting finger fucked at the table?

Kenrya: Yes.

Erica: It was very reminiscent of that. And so we knew it was not time to go home. I don't know where they were staying. I had like a million motherfuckers staying in my house. So I was like, "I know we can't go to my house and pop off." So bitch, we checked into a hotel room in Chinatown looking like straight hoes. Yeah, bitch. We pulled up in that bitch. Because was when I was much smaller, so I wore it was like a little t-shirt. I had on a fucking t-shirt, a little clutch and that was it. And we like, "We need a room."

Erica: I didn't have a fucking toothbrush. He was just like, "We got shit to do girl." And my homegirl, she with her dude. They do the same thing. Bitch, I woke up the next morning and it was like, "Where are my panties?" I was like, "Where the fuck am I?" I couldn't even remember where I was. I had to look out, I poked out the window and I saw a sign with Mandarin letters on it. And I was like, "Chinatown. We're in Chinatown." Oh, so then I texted my girl. I was like, "So..." She was like, "Yeah, I'll meet you in the lobby. Let's get some orange juice and head home."

Kenrya: You's funny.

Erica: So yeah. That was fucking around with my home girls. I can only imagine what this hotel check-in, they'd probably see it all, but it was legit on some like... We stumbled in that bitch, and all I had was an ID, $20, and a credit card.

Kenrya: Only the essentials.

Erica: The essentials. We even had to call up for fucking toothbrushes. So yeah, every time I pass that Red Roof Inn in Chinatown and I'm like, "Good memories, except I don't remember them all."

Kenrya: Oh, no. You don't remember shit.

Erica: Okay. Let's listen to our next dispatch.

Dispatch #3: Homecoming experiences. I think probably the best story I have, because I thought about it. I had a few. But I think this is probably the best one. It wasn't often that I hit homecoming season and wasn't in a relationship because I'm always in a relationship. But one homecoming after I graduated, I think maybe two or three years after we graduated, I don't really remember, came in town, was super excited to see everybody and ran into my old man sugar daddy out and about. And, of course, he was like, "Yo, how you've been?" Whatever, whatever. Dipped off to his house, there was no sex involved. But it usually wasn't sex involved with him. He was just really into oral sex. That really just legit was his thing.

Dispatch #3: And he was really good at it. So, it made sense that that was his thing. So, I did that, got clothes back on, fluffed my hair back up, went back out, hit the yard, like ain't shit happening. Of course, on the yard then I ran into somebody that there used to be old fling with. We chatted, of course he was like, "Come back to the hotel." And I was like, "Nah, I'm on my girls'." Because, at the time, I was like I just can't be bothered. I don't want to. I really had no intentions on coming home, coming to [your room 00:17:25], hooking up with anybody. I was finally single. I was hanging out with my girls. I couldn't be bothered.

Dispatch #3: But of course he continued to text me for the entire day. So, staying at my girls' house, and he's texting me [while 00:17:50] am I getting ready to go out. So, I was like, "Whatever, just come over." So, I sent him the address to her place. He came, I went outside to the car, to the truck. We got in the backseat. We had sex, I sent him on his way. It was basically like, "Leave me alone. Here's something. Don't touch me no more." But little did I know that it wasn't going to end there, because [they 00:18:14] never get enough.

Dispatch #3: So anyway, went back in the house, cleaned herself up. We went out. Of course he just continued to text me the entire night, the rest of the weekend. Then I ran into my ex and, of course, he was like, "So what's up? How you been?" And I was like, "Nah, not trying to hear it." That night, I did go home with my girl. She didn't come back to her house. Well, no. She came back, the then she left. So, she left me there. But then the next night I did hook up with my ex, and then we talked about getting back together for a little while and then [inaudible 00:19:00]. This is what it is. Let's just call it a day. So yeah, that homecoming weekend, there was the sugar daddy oral sex, the fling car sex, and then the ex, his house. But yeah.

Dispatch #3: Oh, how we've evolved. And I cannot believe people are not getting homecoming seasons this year. Actually, I feel bad for people that are single and look forward to homecoming. So they can relive the glory days. And now there's no homecoming.

Erica: All right. So this one is hilarious because one, if it ain't homecoming if you ain't putting miles on that pussy. This was rode hard and put away wet.

Kenrya: She had fun.

Erica: She did. But also her story made me think, navigating homecoming season with a boo.

Kenrya: Which was usually my case, which is why I ain't got a whole bunch of stories. I had a few.

Erica: So, I was either married or I wasn't with you. I'm kind of one of those, either we together or we not type things. I'm trying to think other than when I was married or engaged or dating my husband, I don't think I really had a homecoming where I was with somebody, with somebody, or if I was, I wasn't checking that hard for him because... But yeah. And even the ones that I was married or engaged, like "Nigga, this, my homecoming. You better figure that shit out, or I'll catch you on the flip side." We like run into each other, but we was like "We going out together." It was like, "Hey." [crosstalk 00:21:29] He would send a bottle over to the table and buy me and my girls drinks. But no, what are you doing? This is my homecoming.

Kenrya: This is our time. Exactly. I, for some of them, was involved with folks who actually went to our school. So they would be at homecoming, but with their crew, and I'd be at homecoming with my crew. Sometimes we would be, "Oh, we're at this place." And they will come over with their friends and we would mingle, that kind of thing. But nah. It's always, "You with your people, mister."

Erica: Most of our girls' husbands are homeys and they kick it hard with us. And we actually have a few husbands-

Kenrya: Pouring drinks.

Erica: Yeah. Like, "You didn't go to Howard?" And we have a few husbands that are like, "Okay, you have earned an Howard shirt at homecoming." Like you might have Howard shirts, but you've earned this one because you have set up for enough baby showers, broke down for enough [inaudible 00:22:26] reunions, and held enough purses and jackets.

Kenrya: Acted as a bartender for the tailgate, all of that. Yeah.

Erica: Yeah. Most importantly, they bring their fine ass friends around.

Kenrya: That they do.

Erica: That they do. So, we take our hat to you. Also what was crazy to me is how she mentioned she had this old man and he was like, "I ain't trying to fuck. I'm just trying to eat yo pussy."

Kenrya: Which definitely made me think of you.

Erica: Girl, I'd love me an old man with a kink. "Oh, that's how we doing it? I just got to sit here? Okay, cool. Have fun. Go at it?" And last, I love how again, she noted that your girls always encouraged some fuck shit. I remember that particular homecoming, and I remember her not being with anyone and she's like, "I'm going to kick it with my girls. I'm going to kick it with my girls." I'm just like, "Bitch, if you don't get the fuck on some dick, I want to see you at the fool. I want to see you at the donkey."

Kenrya: Now is your chance.

Erica: Now is your chance. Go at it. Have fun.

Kenrya: It's encouraged.

Erica: So, all that to say, homecoming season, we putting some miles on them pussies, and I promise you next week, next homecoming season, I plan on making up for a lost time. Because you know what? Sorry. I was trying to wrap it up, but I remember-

Kenrya: Changed your mind

Erica: When I first got diagnosed, it was in December and I kept telling everybody like, "I'm going to be Gucci by homecoming. We got this, this, this. My hair going to be back. I'm going to be Gucci by homecoming." And I am Gucci by homecoming, but I ain't got no homecoming to be Gucci with.

Erica: Yeah. This was about to be some full, pure fuckery. So I think the Lord knew that I was going to break my pussy.

Kenrya: Oh my God.

Erica: So, he needed to keep me from acting a donkey, 2020. But guess what? 2021, motherfuckers. It's on. So, that's sad.

Kenrya: Hopefully niggas act like it's actually something going on and mask up and we can be out of this shit by next year. I don't have a lot of-

Erica: The way I've been seeing them niggas on IG-

Kenrya: Every time I scroll through IG, no.

Erica: ... Bitch, I was like, "Okay, yeah."

Kenrya: Yeah. Get yo shit together so we can actually do homecomings.

Erica: Please, get yo shit together so we can do homecoming season. If you're not from-

Kenrya: I don't want to be doing the dispatch again-

Erica: I don't want to be doing dispatches.

Kenrya: ... [crosstalk 00:25:19] this is from homecoming. This is from.

Erica: We won't be doing dispatches from homecoming with our mic. We will allow folks to rock the mic at homecoming. And with that, your two favorite hosts making it clap.

Kenrya: Nope.

Erica: Bye y'all.

Kenrya: Bye.

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